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Couples Therapy in Enfield and Online
You may have had the same argument again, or feel frightened by the distance, anger, silence or loss of trust between you.
Couples therapy can help you slow things down and understand what keeps happening between you.
Begin with a 50-minute initial consultation. There is no commitment to ongoing therapy.
I'm Adam Lawrence-Rodriguez, a BACP-registered therapist with specialist couples training from Tavistock Relationships.
Who I work with
I work with couples whose lives may look steady from the outside, while privately they feel frightened by the distance, anger or loss of trust between them.
The same argument keeps returning
You both leave conversations feeling misunderstood, and the route back to one another becomes harder to find.
Read more about repeated arguments →You feel close in some ways, lonely in others
Daily life continues, but warmth, sex or emotional intimacy may feel increasingly difficult to reach.
Read more about emotional distance →Parenthood or family life has changed the relationship
You may be managing children, work and practical responsibilities while feeling unsure where the couple has gone.
Read more about relationships after having a baby →Difference, hurt or mistrust sits between you
Culture, race, faith, family expectations or unresolved experiences may shape conflict and closeness in ways that are difficult to name.
Read more about race, culture and faith →If any of this feels familiar, you are welcome to get in touch. It is common for one person to make the first enquiry, even when their partner feels less certain.
How I work with you
Couples therapy pays attention to both of you and to the relationship taking shape between you.
I help slow the conversation down before it reaches the same painful ending. I pay attention to who has room to speak, who becomes quiet and what happens when either of you feels blamed, ashamed or misunderstood.
As a therapist of mixed Black heritage, I bring sensitivity to masculinity, race, culture, identity and difference. Both partners bring a relationship to masculinity, shaped by family, partners and the wider world. I am interested in what strength, tenderness, responsibility and vulnerability have come to mean for each of you. Race, culture, gender, sexuality, faith, class and family history can shape how we love, argue and feel seen. I will not assume I already understand what these experiences mean for either of you.
Beginning therapy
Once you get in touch, I will reply personally within a day or two and arrange an initial consultation with you.
Initial consultation
Coming to couples therapy can feel like a big step, especially if one of you feels unsure. The first 50-minute consultation, costing £80, gives each of you room to speak, helps me understand what has brought you and lets us see if working together feels right. You do not need to arrive equally certain, and there is no pressure to decide about ongoing therapy in the session.
Weekly sessions
Regular weekly sessions give the work continuity. Couples therapy is £120 per session. A small number of reduced-fee spaces are available for those who would otherwise be unable to access therapy.
The work over time
In ongoing sessions, I help you recognise how arguments begin, how distance grows and what becomes difficult to say. The aim is not only to understand the pattern, but to create more choice in how you meet one another when it returns.
If you think I might be able to help, you can begin with an initial consultation.
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Questions that may arise while you are still deciding what kind of support might feel right.
How do I know whether couples or individual therapy is right for me?
Couples therapy focuses on what happens between partners and can help when conflict, distance, intimacy, trust or family life have become difficult. Individual therapy offers one-to-one space to understand your own feelings, history, identity and relationship patterns. You may also choose individual therapy if your partner does not wish to attend.
What if my partner is unsure about therapy?
It is common for one person to begin looking first. The initial consultation gives both of you room to speak and experience how I work. I will not assume that the person who made the enquiry is right, or that the less certain partner is the problem.
Will you tell us whether to stay together?
No. I will not direct you to separate or remain together. Couples therapy can help you understand the relationship more clearly, including what keeps happening between you and what may or may not be possible to change.
Will you challenge us?
I may interrupt a familiar pattern or draw attention to withdrawing, blaming or speaking over one another. I try to do this carefully, without shaming either person.
Do you assume both people are equally responsible?
No. Taking both people seriously does not mean assuming that every action or difficulty is equally shared. I pay attention to power, fear, safety and whether each of you feels able to speak freely.
Is what I am experiencing serious enough for therapy?
You do not need to be at breaking point or have a diagnosis. People often begin because something feels heavy, lonely, repetitive or difficult to understand alone. Recognising that something needs care and attention can be an important first step.
Can we talk about sex, parenting, identity or the differences that shape us?
Yes. Therapy can include sex, parenting, race, culture, faith, identity, gender and our relationship to masculinity or femininity. These parts of life can be spoken about carefully and without assumptions.
What happens after I contact you?
I reply personally, usually within a day or two, and arrange an initial fifty-minute consultation. This is not a commitment to ongoing therapy. Sessions are available online and in person near Enfield Town, Enfield Chase and Winchmore Hill.
More about couples therapy
Read about my specialist couples training, how I work in the room and what beginning therapy involves.
Couples Therapy in Enfield
How couples therapy begins, what ongoing sessions are like and practical information about meeting in Enfield or online.
Read more about couples therapy →Reading Room
A quieter place for longer pieces on relationships, emotional life, and the struggles that keep returning.
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They come home from work and barely speak.
On the quiet distance that can grow at the end of the day, and the things both partners may be waiting for the other to notice.
If you feel close in some ways but alone in others, reading can offer another way to understand what has developed between you.
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The baby is asleep. You’re both still scrolling.
On exhaustion, separate screens and what happens to closeness after having a baby.
“I’m just not feeling it.” Again.
On repeated rejection, lack of desire and the pressure that can begin to gather around intimacy.
Someone makes a racist comment. Your partner changes the subject.
On race, silence and what can happen when one partner feels left alone in an interracial or intercultural relationship.
Explore the Reading Room, or request an appointment when you feel ready.
Is counselling different from therapy?
You may be unsure if you are looking for counselling or therapy. The words often overlap, and there is no simple dividing line.
Couples counselling may begin with a difficulty in the relationship now. Couples therapy can also help us understand why certain arguments, distances or patterns keep returning. We can attend to what is happening between you while becoming curious about what may sit underneath it.
I use the word therapy, but you may have arrived here looking for couples counselling, relationship counselling or marriage counselling in Enfield or online. What matters is finding someone with whom you both feel able to speak honestly.
When you feel ready
You do not need to have everything worked out or know exactly what to say. Whether you are looking for support for your relationship or for yourself, a few words about what has brought you here are enough to begin.
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