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For couples feeling stuck, distant or unsure
You may still care deeply about each other, but feel stuck in the same argument, quietly far apart, or unsure how to repair something that has hurt the relationship. Parenting, tiredness, sex and intimacy, or different needs may also have become harder to talk about.
I’m Adam Lawrence-Rodriguez, a BACP registered therapist based in North London. I offer couples and individual therapy online and in person.
The first step is simply a chance to think together about what is happening, what you may need, and whether therapy feels like the right place to begin.
BACP registered therapist, membership number 418238.
Who I work with
I work with couples who may still care deeply about each other, but feel caught in arguments, distance, parenting pressures, hurt or uncertainty that has become hard to shift on their own.
The same arguments keep returning
You may both want things to change, but still find yourselves back in the same painful place.
Distance has started to grow
You may still care about each other, but closeness, warmth, or sex can feel harder to reach.
Something has damaged trust
There may be something between you that has become hard to talk about clearly, whether it happened suddenly or built up over time.
Life after children has changed the relationship
You may feel more like co-parents than partners, with arguments, tiredness, resentment, or less room for sex, closeness and each other.
If this feels familiar, you are welcome to arrange an initial consultation.
How I Work
Therapy gives us time to look at the moments that keep repeating: the argument, the silence, the distance, the hurt, or the things that become hard to say clearly.
This might include trust, intimacy, parenting, family pressures, different needs, or the feeling that you are managing life together while losing sight of each other as partners.
How therapy can help
With couples, I do not take sides. I help you look at what happens between you, especially in moments of conflict, distance, misunderstanding, or hurt. The work is about making space for both people to feel heard, so difficult feelings can be thought about rather than acted out, avoided, or left to grow quietly.
My training through Tavistock Relationships supports specialist couples work, including how family history, identity and earlier experiences can shape how partners reach for, miss, or protect themselves from each other.
Online or in person
Sessions can take place online or in person from therapy rooms close to Enfield Town, Enfield Chase and Winchmore Hill stations.
About me
I’m Adam Lawrence-Rodriguez BSc, PGDip, MBACP, a BACP registered therapist based in North London. I work with couples and individuals online and in person. I trained at Tavistock Relationships, with my qualification awarded through Birkbeck, University of London.
In couples work, I am interested in the places where partners lose each other: repeated arguments, quiet distance, parenting pressures, sex and intimacy, trust, family history, different needs, and the parts of the relationship that can become hard to speak about openly.
I also bring sensitivity to how culture, race, gender, belonging, and family history can shape what feels possible to say. These experiences can be part of the work where they matter, without needing to become the whole focus.
Beginning therapy
Therapy begins with a 50-minute initial consultation. You are welcome to enquire about current availability for online or in-person therapy.
Initial consultation
A 50-minute first couples consultation for £80. This is not a commitment to ongoing work; it is a first meeting to understand what brings you here, what you may need, and whether working together feels right.
Weekly sessions
Regular weekly sessions give the work continuity. Couples therapy is £120 per session. A limited number of reduced-fee spaces are available for those who would otherwise be unable to access therapy.
Making sense of the pattern
We look at what tends to happen between you: how arguments begin, how silence grows, what each of you may be protecting, and what becomes hard to say.
FAQ
Some common questions before beginning therapy.
How do we know if couples therapy could help?
Couples therapy may help if the same argument keeps returning, if you feel more like housemates or co-parents than partners, or if something has happened that feels hard to repair. You do not need to be at breaking point to begin.
Why do we keep having the same argument?
Repeated arguments are often about more than the topic on the surface. In therapy, we slow the argument down and look at what each of you may be feeling, protecting, needing, or finding hard to say.
Can couples therapy help after having children?
Yes. Having children can change the relationship in ways that are hard to name. You may be tired, more practical with each other, arguing more, having less sex, or feeling that there is little room left for the couple. Therapy can help you think about what has changed and what each of you may need.
Can we talk about sex, intimacy, parenting or open relationships in couples therapy?
Yes. Couples often bring questions around sex, desire, intimacy, parenting, boundaries, trust, openness, or differences in what each person wants. Therapy can offer a careful space to talk about these things without shame, pressure, or assumptions about what your relationship should look like.
Can couples therapy help with emotional distance?
Yes. Some couples come because conflict is loud; others come because things have become quiet, practical, or lonely. Therapy can help you speak more honestly about what has been lost, avoided, or hard to reach.
What if one of us is unsure about therapy?
It is common for partners to arrive with different levels of certainty. The initial consultation gives both of you space to say what you hope for, what you are worried about, and whether ongoing therapy feels useful.
Where do sessions take place?
I offer online couples therapy and in-person couples therapy from rooms close to Enfield Town, Enfield Chase and Winchmore Hill stations.
Reading Room
A quieter place to explore longer pieces on relationships, emotional life, and recurring struggles.
Featured piece
When the Same Argument Keeps Returning
On the familiar places couples can get stuck, why small conversations can quickly become painful, and what may sit underneath the argument itself.
If you keep finding yourselves in the same painful place, reading can offer another way into understanding what happens between you.
More to read
What Is Relational Resonance?
On feeling seen, heard, and emotionally understood in relationships.
When You Feel Lonely in a Relationship
On quiet distance, practical routines, and what can become hard to reach.
Family History and How We Love
On the old expectations, protections, and hopes we can bring into closeness.
You are welcome to explore the Reading Room, or arrange an initial consultation if you feel ready to enquire about therapy.
When you feel ready
You do not need to have everything worked out before reaching out. The first step is simply a chance for us to think together about what is happening, what you may need, and whether working together feels right.
Arrange an Initial Consultation